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July 21, 2026
5 updates
Energetic Shield
The visualization of an energetic shield helps with stronger energetic boundaries. It can help to visualize energy bouncing off the shield like when something hits a windshield. <Image
Mindfulness Meditation
Mindfulness meditation is perhaps the most common form of meditation. It is about recognizing when the mind has wandered off and then just letting that thought go in a gentle way. These moments feel like waking up from a thought, and this awareness can be trained like a muscle. After doing mindfulness meditation for a while, it is also easier to be aware of your thoughts and mental state in daily life. If you are prone to overthinking, this practice can help a lot to catch these moments earlier and then decide if it's still productive thought. Lift a finger when you notice you've drifted off. This helps remember what this type of meditation is about. To let go of a thought, it helps to visualize it like a thread that can be gentle cut or let go of and float away.
Consciousness Clouds
The collective human organism consists of a lot of smaller networks of group consciousness. The term Consciousness Clouds helps us become aware of the environment we're currently in and how it affects us. The atmosphere, mental state, worldview, and language differs depending on where we are and who we're with. In different groups and contexts, we take on (and get assigned) different roles. At social gatherings, it can even sometimes feel like entering different clouds of consciousness when walking around and interacting with people. Without proper boundaries, it can be easy to lose ourselves in the cloud we're currently in. We're so enmeshed with the group we're in and the role we play there, that we lose track of the bigger picture of who we are.
Attention
External attention (like feeling desired, admired...) can lead to spiritual ego. It's important to not confuse this type of attention with connection. Attention is a near enemy of love. "What you pay attention to grows." – adrienne maree brown in Emergent Strategy "The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers." – ThĂch Nhất Hạnh - Gratitude Journaling - Awe Walk
Meditation
Meditation is about taking time to slow down, be present, and listen to what's going on inside and around us.
July 15, 2026
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Disclosure Pause
The Disclosure Pause is the moment you have to make a decision about how much you are willing to share about yourself in a conversation. It's a juicy, liminal space, often only a split-second where we decide how vulnerable, personal, and deep we want to go. Someone asks you about your plans for tonight, how your weekend was, what your tattoo means. Will the answer be just a vague "oh, nothing much" or a personal story that could feel vulnerable, but also open the door to more connection? Especially for people who have been holding back sharing their inner world because of fear of rejection, practicing awareness of these moments and decisions can be very helpful.
Repair
Repair is the process of rebuilding and deepening trust after rupture has happened. It can involve: - Holding space for the pain - Building compassion for each other and the situation - Apologizing with sincerity - Suggesting ways how to handle situations like this in the future In conflict, we can both work on our individual healing, but without repair our bond isn't strengthened. There is not always capacity for repair, and that's okay. However, how repair was done in past situations is a key factor in how safe we feel in showing ourselves vulnerable now. A commitment to repair not only involves taking responsibility for the pain our behavior has caused. It is also necessary to bring up situations where we were hurt by others, even if we fear feeling rejected and invalidated. - Have my requests for repair been valued and taken seriously?
June 27, 2026
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Transitions
Moving between activies and meetings in a fast way can lead to carrying over a lot of things. We may think about a task we just finished right before the meeting we currently have, or we may already think about the next meeting when ending the current one. Mindless transition between activities leads to less presence, less being aware of what we want and need right now. It is helpful to do grounding exercises (like meditation) while transitioning between tasks or meetings. To get back within ourselves, calm down a bit, breathe, before we move on to the next thing. This is really important for people who tend to lose themselves in outside energies. Adding proper transitions allows us to always return to a calm center and listen to our intuition. It can also be helpful to have low dopamine periods in times of transition. To not look at our phone and immerse ourselves in externalities right away. We're less affected by these energies when we confront ourselves with them from a calm, centered space.
Anchoring
Anchoring can be a practice, tool or ritual that can bring us into a specific state. This can be helpful when transitioning between activities. For example, es specific scent, drink, mudra or meditation can be used to get us into a productive mindset before starting a task.
June 11, 2026
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Near Enemy
"In Buddhist philosophy, there is a concept called the “near enemy.” It describes something that closely resembles a virtue, but subtly distorts it. Unlike the “far enemy,” which is easy to spot—cruelty versus compassion, despair versus joy—the near enemy is deceptive. It feels almost like the real thing." – Care in The Question Underneath "Control is often the near enemy of connection. It can look like attentiveness, like devotion, like being deeply invested. But underneath, it is not rooted in love. It is rooted in fear. It is the attempt to secure safety by managing outcomes, by anticipating harm, by tightening your grip on uncertainty." – Care in The Question Underneath
Othering
Othering means focusing on our differences instead of what connects us. Instead of seeing the whole of humanity as an organism with the potential to collaborate with each other, it draws artificial lines between us and them. Othering is the near enemy of belonging. By defining some people as outsiders, we can feel connected the group of insiders. The human need for a sense of belonging to a larger group is often weaponized by propaganda. - Any type of discrimination - A focus on the nuclear family instead of the greater collective and community - Love stories based on "us against the rest of the world" - Finding a common enemy to bring together a group of people
April 18, 2026
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Mudra
A mudra is a hand gesture or pose that is associated with a specific meaning, often in a ritualistic context. While different types of symbolic gestures can be found across cultures, the term mudra and many of its applications originated in Indian and Tibetan religions and philosophies like Hinduism and Buddhism. Mudras can be used for anchoring with the intention to get into a specific state of mind. There are different types of mudras: - Collective Mudras: A good way to get started is to use gestures that are already recognized. Many of the existing mudras have been passed on for centuries and thus charged with a lot of meaning and effectiveness. - Personal Mudras: It can also be effective to develop your own gestures and use them for specific contexts. This way, they lack the collective meaning, but can be charged with your own and increase effectiveness over time.
Anchoring
Anchoring can be a practice, tool or ritual that can bring us into a specific state. This can be helpful when transitioning between activities. For example, es specific scent, drink, mudra or meditation can be used to get us into a productive mindset before starting a task.
Trust
A culture of building and deepening trust is a culture where repair is taken seriously. Trust as a daily practice: - Trust people (Pygmalion Effect) - Reward people for their trust in you "If you trust the people, they become trustworthy." – adrienne maree brown in Emergent Strategy "Move at the speed of trust. Focus on critical connections more than critical mass–build the resilience by building the relationships." – adrienne maree brown in Emergent Strategy