responsibility). It says,_ you should have known, _when the truth is,_ I didn’t say." – Care in [Avoiding boundaries is not kindness](/knowledge/article-avoiding-boundaries-care) "_For me, resentment is often closer to [jealousy](/knowledge/jealousy) than to [anger](/knowledge/anger). It sounds like: “Well, I didn’t say anything when you did X last fall.” What I’m really saying is:_ I cannot hold your boundary because I cannot hold or speak my own." – Care in [Avoiding boundaries is not kindness](/knowledge/article-avoiding-boundaries-care) 1a:T5f3, ## Thoughts Resentment makes us see people with less loving eyes, it leads to the [Golem effect](/knowledge/golem-effect). ### Preventing Resentment By choosing to address a conflict instead of sweeping it under the rug, I can take [responsibility](/knowledge/responsibility) to prevent resentment from building up over time. ## Quotes "_I delayed truth until it hardened into resentment because resentment felt safer than [vulnerability](/knowledge/vulnerability). Resentment preserves power without risking rejection._" – Care in [Avoiding boundaries is not kindness](/knowledge/article-avoiding-boundaries-care) "_When internal [boundaries](/knowledge/boundaries) are weak or absent, resentment becomes the substitute. And resentment is dangerous because it disguises itself as moral clarity while actually being deferred [responsibility](/knowledge/responsibility). It says,_ you should have known, _when the truth is,_ I didn’t say." – Care in [Avoiding boundaries is not kindness](/knowledge/article-avoiding-boundaries-care) "_For me, resentment is often closer to [jealousy](/knowledge/jealousy) than to [anger](/knowledge/anger). It sounds like: “Well, I didn’t say anything when you did X last fall.” What I’m really saying is:_ I cannot hold your boundary because I cannot hold or speak my own." – Care in [Avoid